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If you are interested in dating a bisexual man or woman, there are many questions that can come up if you have never dated a bisexual before. Being bi is still a bit of a mystery for many, and that’s okay. The important thing is that you are open to learning more about dating us! For the most part, we find that others are just curious what it’s like to be bisexual and of course, what it is like to date one!

1. We identify with both the gay and straight communities

Generally speaking, most of us were raised in a heteronormative environment and likely started off being attracted to the opposite gender. Of course, after discovering we were also attracted to the same gender, we found likeminded men and women in the LGQBT communities. This has allowed us to see opinions, views, interests and misconceptions in both gay and straight cultures. We probably know a lot about both communities, so if you’re going to date us you can expect us to be well informed on issues and opinions from both of these worlds.

2. We may be more open to your fantasies

One of the misconceptions of being bisexual is that we cannot commit to only one person or that we will want everyone we see. This is not true. We can stick to the same person for the rest of our lives and still be bisexual! However, if you happen to be interested in a MMF or MFF threesome, there is a good chance we would be happy to fulfill the fantasy with you. In fact, if you really want to add a threesome to your sexual experiences at some point in your future relationship (and many couples do!) then dating a bisexual is a great way to increase the chance that the fantasy will be mutual. Or you can find a third that is bisexual, to complement your existing relationship.

3. Being attracted to both genders doesn’t mean everyone is attracted to us

Some people may think that being bisexual is the best of both worlds because we have more options but this is not necessarily the case. Just because we are attracted to both genders doesn’t mean everyone is hot for us. In fact, many people are a bit hesitant to date us because they think we are actually gay or transitioning to being gay. And just like straight or gay relationships, not everyone we meet and like is going to like us back. So even though we like two genders, our success rate is likely not any higher than yours.

Dating a bisexual man or woman is a great way to meet an open and interesting individual and to learn more about a sexual identity. You will find there are many positive benefits to dating a bisexual man or woman. Sign up to CityBi today to start a free profile to meet bisexual men and women that live close to you and want to meet.  

Having a threesome is an exciting fantasy come true for many couples that are looking to add a new level of excitement and intimacy to their love life. As long as everyone is on the same page regarding what a threesome means, and what it does not mean for the relationship, everyone can enjoy a new level of erotic and healthy fun. The most challenging aspect of having a threesome is bringing it up to your partner and figuring out how to make it happen. Fortunately, after realizing there is equal excitement, finding a third for your threesome will not be difficult at all with the right approach.

Although it’s possible to meet your threesome third at a bar, club or by inviting a friend into the mix, the best way is to find him or her on a bisexual dating site.  By using a bisexual dating site, you are more likely to find a third for a threesome that is sexually comfortable with both men and women.  On a dating site, everyone is out seeking the same thing, rather than making decisions after drinking at a party or bar that you may later regret.  We recommended going online to find someone outside of you or your partner’s circle of friends. This will avoid any awkwardness, hurt feelings or drama after the threesome has happened. By going online everyone knows what they want and you will find a third that is actively seeking a couple to fulfill their own fantasy. It’s the safest and most seamless approach.

The Best Way to Set Up a Threesome Online

1. Join a Bisexual Dating Site

We recommended that you set up a dating profile as a couple seeking a third for a threesome on a bisexual dating site.  A bisexual dating network will have people that are definitely interested in both Guys and Girls, which is key to making your threesome happen.  Creating a profile as a couple will let any potential third see how attractive you are. This also avoids having to introduce your third to your other half on a date. If you are going to have a threesome together, go through the entire process as a couple on a bisexual dating site.  Make it something you do together and this will result in a more fun and fulfilling experience for everyone involved.

2. Post A Variety of Pictures

If you and your partner are searching for a third online be sure to post a variety of pictures. Some ideas can include:

• Solo pictures, especially shots that show off your bodies.
• Pictures that highlight any kinks or preferences you would explore with a third such as BDSM or role play scenarios.
• Include pictures as a couple to show how you look and interact together so that potential thirds can get a sense of your chemistry.

When it comes to posting pictures more is better. It shows that you are serious about finding a third and it helps that person to decide even before meeting if they are going to want to have a threesome with you and your partner. Let your pictures do the talking for you!

3. Send Messages

The last step to finding a third for a threesome is to browse profiles with your partner to see who turns you both on. If you both like someone and their profile explicitly states, or subtly suggests they would be open to it, send a message! Picking up a third with your partner is incredibly sexy. Message your potential third with a compliment and end with a flirty and engaging question to keep the conversation going.

A threesome is exciting, sexually adventurous and incredibly hot. If you and your partner are considering adding a third to your sex life, set up a profile on CityBi.com and browse thousands of profiles to meet likeminded bisexual men and bisexual women in your area.

If you have never considered dating a bisexual man you may be missing out! The one misconception that women have about dating a bisexual guy is that he will be cheating on you with every willing man he encounters. Nothing could be farther from the truth. You could also say that a straight man will cheat with every woman he encounters but we know that’s just not true. Bisexuality is simply the preference for men and women, not a constant need to sleep with both. However, relationships are defined differently for everyone but that brings us to the first point:

You Can Talk to Your Bisexual Boyfriend Openly About Sex, Expectations and Boundaries

A bisexual man is more likely to expect and engage in a conversation as the relationship unfolds and is able to discuss the nature of your sexual relationship openly and maturely. It’s a benefit over most heteronormative relationships where monogamy and gender roles are the expected status quo. Most hetero couples don’t have a conversation about the nature of their sexual relationship unless they happen to fall outside of the norm such as being polygamous.

Once you’re on the same page about fidelity you can start to discuss turn-ons and kinks, which can take years without openly discussing sexuality!

Your Bisexual Boyfriend May be Part of Another Alternative Lifestyle

Whether it’s goth, pagan, vegans, activists or cosplay we find that the world of bisexuality helps men to feel comfortable and confident in other lifestyles that many hetero men would find too far outside of their typical realm. This benefits any woman that likes to travel off the beaten path to gain new experiences and to meet exciting people. Of course many straight men are goth and many bisexual men may be most happy in the garage drinking beer with their buddies but generally speaking bisexual men have already broken one of society’s rules so why not another? In other words, dating bisexual men is exciting, revolutionary and experiential.

You Could Join In

Being bisexual does not make a man sex-crazed, inherently more driven to cheat or more likely to want group sex or a polygamous relationship but if that does turn your crank, you’re going to be more likely to fulfil your MMF threesome fantasy with a bisexual boyfriend rather than with a straight one. Especially if you crave an equally pleasurable group experience rather than the mainstream porn version of a female being used by multiple men (all good if it turns you on, just saying). Unfortunately, both men and women have been raised to repress their desires and to deny themselves sex that does not turn straight men on. Bisexual men have already broken that mould so if you’re one to cross those lines too, do it with your bisexual boyfriend!

Dating a bisexual guy can be the best thing that ever happened to your love and sex life with open and honest communication and the understanding that bisexuality is defined and embraced differently in every relationship.

Give it a Try - Date a Bi!

Now, I had always considered myself a flaming heterosexual, ... at least until my 30's.  That's when I started getting hit on by women right and left.  At first,  I was merely flattered but, it wasn't long before I began to think that perhaps they were on to something.  

Now, the fellow I was seeing at the time was a lot of fun and very open minded.  From the very start, I knew I wasn't the only gal he was seeing wish was fine with me.  I didn't want him all to myself because, although he was so much fun, he was way too much work for one woman.  lol We'd been going out for a couple of months and were enjoying what we called "reindeer games", which was just some light bdsm.  I was intrigued with how empowering submission could be.

Anyway, when I expressed my curiosity to him, it was no surprise that he knew someone willing to play.  Now, before I tell the rest, there's somethings you should know. I am a stand up comedian with a real predilection for dick jokes.  I can, at times, be a real smart ass and a lot to put up with in the bedroom. I've always said a really patient man can maintain an erection when I get out of bed to write something funny down.  Most guys just love a gal with a sense of humor, ... until they're naked.  LOL! This guy was a fan of my comedy and, apparently, was making his other girlfriends watch a recording of my comedy show.  

So, one night he invited his other playmate to go on a date with us.   I had met her once in passing and found her very alluring so, I just knew this was going to be fun.  The three of us went out for drinks and then, back to his place for some reindeer games.  We got all dressed up in our finest leather apparel and so the games began.  The first thing they did was tie me up and blindfold me.  So, there I was, restrained, blindfolded and all a quiver with anticipation .... when suddenly the two of them began to relentlessly do my jokes at me!  HA!  If you only knew how much I have that coming!  I will go to my grave respecting the crap out of both of them for that!  Not only was it brilliant and funny but, what a great little ice breaker, too!  

Well, once we regained composure, we got down to serious business.  Now, it's very important, when having a threesome, that someone be the Moe. (stooges reference)  It's crucial that someone be in charge, take the lead,  choreograph  and orchestrate, ... making sure everyone's needs are attended to and a good time is had by all.  She was amazing at this!!  Her plan had a title and a plot, which she revealed in the sexiest bedroom voice I have ever heard ... and, best of all, ... it was all about the seduction of yours truly!  WOW!  Imagine your most attentive lover, ... then, double it!  I have never been more titillated or made to feel so sexy and desired.  

We all continued as playmates on and off for the following year.  I use to say that the 3 of us made such a lovely couple.  That was nearly 20 years ago and she and I are still the very closest of friends!

When we are meeting new people online it can be wonderfully exciting to get to know a potential new lover. However, while you get to know each other on an intimate level you must be careful not to give too much personal information too soon. We’ll discuss some ways you can protect yourself, your identity and your finances while still being able to have fun on your favorite Bisexual Dating Website. We’ll also give you some tips on how to safely set up a first date!

Protect Your Identity

Your Profile should NEVER include:

• Your Full Name- always use an alias. You can be creative and have fun making a username that might describe your character traits, hobbies your into, sexual desires or orientation, or something completely obscure.

• Your Address- Give your City and nothing more! All your potential matches need to know is if you’re in the same city or metropolitan area. Don’t tell people where you live with meeting them in public first and getting to know them a bit.

• Your Phone Number or Email- Your phone number and email address can be easily linked to your name and identity. Citybi.com gives you the ability to chat live on the website and send private messages that are sent directly to your email address. This allows you to communicate safely before exchanging personal contact info.

How to identify and report suspicious behavior

Be Leary When:

• A user wants you to communicate with email or by phone too quickly. Some people might be just eager to get to know you but you must keep your guard up and if they are genuine they will respect your privacy.

• Someone asks you for money. Do not, under any circumstances, transfer money to some that you’ve never met before. Scammers will sometimes give you a convincing sob story, don’t buy it!

• A message is hard to read because of poor English, grammar, or spelling. On Citybi.com there are many international members and they may just want to get know you and be friends. Many scammers may originate outside of the United States so be mindful of this.

First Date!

Always take these steps when going on a first date with someone you’ve met online:

• Agree to meet in a public place in day light. A coffee shop or a restaurant is a great place to meet for a first date. Public places are generally safe and places with a wait staff or retail clerk will ensure other people will see you for the duration of your date.

• Tell a friend or family member about your date. Tell someone close to you where you will be and when you’ll be returning. Without being rude, of course, keep in contact with your friend during your date, at least before and after. If you do hit it off with your date and you plan to go for a walk or see a movie, tell your friends where you’re going.

• Make your own way to and from the date. Drive your own car, a cab, Uber, or have a friend take you, either way DO NOT let your date pick you up or drop you off. Providing your transportation leaves you in control, this is important to staying safe on the first date.

• Citybi.com recommends keeping it to caffeine on the first date but if you do decide to have a drink, limit yourself to 1 or 2. Alcohol can be a vital asset to the dating world but getting too loose on the first date with a stranger can be asking for trouble.

Bisexual online dating can be a fun and satisfying experience and if you follow these suggestions it will ensure you always have a great experience. Stay safe and we’ll see you on Citybi.com.