Bisexual dating is both easier and harder than it seems. It's easier in the sense that - since dating is a "numbers game" - your odds of success double when you double your playing field. At the same time, it's harder because bisexuality is so poorly understood, both by the general population and even by research scientists. Even though your dating options are expanded, in some sense, you are in a tiny minority that's misunderstood.
So let's bust 3 common, super annoying bisexual myths!
Myth #1: "You're not bisexual -- you're either gay and confused or straight and confused."
Reality: Human sexuality exists on a continuous spectrum. That's true for everyone.
While no doubt many people are far on one side of the continuum or the other, many people really do sit in the middle of that spectrum. Avoid trying to convince other people of the "trueness" of your bisexuality. You're never going to win, and it's not worth your time.
If a prospective date hassles you about your "true" orientation, take that as a red flag. Some curiosity should be expected -- especially if your prospective date has never dated someone who's bi or bi-curious -- but you shouldn't have to submit to interrogation.
Myth #2: "You're really just straight (or gay), and you're going to dump me for member of the opposite sex."
Reality: When you commit to a relationship, you could get dumped, one way or the other!
When you commit to someone, you run the potential of getting hurt. Life is fundamentally uncertain. Again, if your prospective date -- or "in the early stages" BF/GF -- expresses concern that you will dump him or her for someone of the opposite gender, have a conversation. Be open and empathetic, and really try to listen to the person's needs.
Myth #3: "Bisexuals have more sex; they are more experimental and progressive in bed."
Reality: Depends on the person!
Some bisexuals certainly spice things up in the bedroom. Others are far more conservative and buttoned-down. This kind of stereotyping does no one any favors. If want to measure prospective promiscuity, you can find far better indicators: Your age, for instance, or your past number of sexual partners, or your zip code.
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