Whether you're gay, straight, bicurious or bisexual, you find the world of online dating confusing and exciting in equal measure. Here are 4 tips to help you have a more fun, safe experience online.
Tip #1: Spend time crafting a good profile -- and don't do it in a vacuum.
Pick a decent photo of yourself -- represent yourself honestly but in a good light. Otherwise, your dates might be "unpleasantly surprised" when they met you in person. Write a good profile description. Keep it positive and specific. Avoid delving too deep into your past failed relationships or your hatred of hipsters or whatever. Instead, focus on stuff about you that you think is wonderful and that you think a potential suitor will find fascinating and compelling.
For instance, maybe you're a great baker or an accomplished musician. Brag, but do it gently. Ask one or two friends to look over what you've created. Tailor your profile to attract the kind of person you're going after. For instance, if you're in the mood to date a guy or date a girl this summer, be specific and say so. If you don't care, make that clear. There is no "wrong way" to set up a profile, but you want to be clear, positive, and engaging.
Tip #2: Keep the "in between stage" brief and to the point.
There's no point in wasting your time on an online pen pal (unless that's what you're after). You want to screen potential suitors in an effective, efficient way. Write short (but engaging and funny) e-mails. Plan something low key for your first meet up, like coffee or a quick drinks.
Tip #3: Protect your safety and privacy.
Avoid giving away identifying personal information, such as your home address or where you work. Before you go on a date, tell one person you trust where you're going, so that person can check on you.
Tip #4: Expect a learning curve
If this is your first time dating online -- or even if you've "given it a go" in the past -- don't expect to become a virtual Casanova right off the bat. You'll need to experiment before you get it right. Give yourself time, and be compassionate with yourself and with the people you meet.
Rejection is part of the game -- it happens to everybody. It's often just a reflection of your unfamiliarity with the process of online dating.
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